Couple Counselling

Couple Counselling:

 

In counselling couples, Lynda uses an approach stemming from the research of John Gottman. Couples come to counselling in different places, from a place of growth to a place of separation. Counselling will be a place of hope and challenge. Although the approach is scientific, the skills you will learn are practical and are proven by research to get results.

You will benefit the most from couple counselling if you are able to commit to working on your relationship, participate fully in your counselling sessions, involve yourself in your work at home between sessions and be open to letting your counsellor know what is happening for you through the process. Your counselling will be unique to you and your challenges and will be a work of expression of each person and the counsellor.

 

Testimonial: From the perspective of being the spouse of 22 years to a sufferer of bipolar and other afflictions, I have been involved with over 14 various professionals, psychiatrists, psychologists and Christian councillors. We found almost all to be of some insight to us and a buoy of strength. Adding to those were over 30 various books on the issue and self-help supplements for life’s coping skills.

Lynda Chalmers for over six years was far and beyond the most valuable and instrumental resource to help my two children and I to keep our struggle above ground. Lynda has the exceptional and impeccable ability to listen to the heart and the intellect, many times putting into words, thoughts and feelings what I wasn’t able to vociferate to my wife or myself. Her photographic clarity always amazed me by recalling (without referring to notes) any random minutia of past conversations and events.

 

Topics that are often covered are:
 

  • Successfully dialoguing about perpetual problems
  • How to make and receive repair attempts that allow you to be closer more often in relationship
  • How to identify and find antidotes for Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling which are communication patterns that lead to divorce
  • Find ways to build a marital friendship that helps to weather the storms of relationship
  • Resolving physiological flooding or anxiety that has you withdrawing from your relationship during conflict
  • How to forgive past hurts in order to become more free in your relationship
  • Understand relationship conflicts that arise from childhood experiences
  • Understand your own and your partner’s language of love
  • Building relational, emotional and sexual intimacy

Couple counselling will likely begin weekly and then move to biweekly. After the couple is improving and able to work together well, counselling sessions will end. Most couples are concerned about a relapse and find it beneficial to commit to having a check-in within six months and then a year.